Issue 19: What Do We Affirm In Our Client When Things Aren’t Going Well?
For those of you who are seasoned practitioners, you will be familiar with the very bumpy road that is characteristic of our clients’ behaviour change process. If you are new to facilitating change in others I am sure that a minute of self reflection will confirm that even (or particularly!) for ourselves, ‘being’ different and ‘doing’ different is hard work requiring energy, focus and commitment.
It is not uncommon for our clients to share ‘problem saturated stories’ of repeated experiences of failure, lack of hope or even reluctance to be visiting our office to meet with us. It can be a genuine challenge to our skill of affirming to seek out our clients’ strengths to reflect back to them when there’s seemingly nothing ‘going right’. The paradox is of course, that this can be a powerful time to do it. Demonstrating our willingness to notice capacity and capability in our client when they cannot see it for themselves can be a strong alliance builder.
So where to start?
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